My Mom

In order to go to my ever-so-long Dr. appt I had to figure out child care as Tim was working. My Mom usually has dinner with us on Thursday nights and since my Appt was on a Thursday I just asked her to come over right after she got off work to tend to the kids so I could go to my Dr. appt. I was kinda vague about why I was going to the Dr. since I wasn't sure how much information I wanted to share. But then the talkative Dr took over a freaking hour with me. Then add in the waiting room time and drive time and I was gone for 2 hours. So when I got back she had all sorts of questions.

She took the news sorta well. But she had some points that were a little strange. In rebuttal to me saying that the WLS would reduce my risk of getting full blown diabetes she said, "skinny people get diabetes too". Yes they do Mom. But I am NOT a skinny person. We have diabetes in our family. My grandfather had and Aunt Jeana have diabetes. My other 2 aunts have insulin resistance. And in my specific situation *I* have insulin resistance and one of the treatments is to lose weight. Thus WLS.

In rebuttal to me saying that losing weight would decrease my risk of heart disease she told me that skinny people get heart disease. I told her that we have a family history of heart disease. My Grandma (her Mom) had at least 1 heart procedure to remove plaque from her arteries and she died of a heart attack. On my Dad's side of the family my Grandmother died of a heart attack. And my Grandfather also died of a heart attack. Mom did say that both her Mother and my Grandpa on Dad's side had other health issues that could have strained their hearts. (Grandma had arthritis and Grandpa had cancer) But that still leaves my other Grandma and actually my Mom has high blood pressure too. One of the ways to reduce blood pressure and keep your heart healthy is to be at a healthy weight! Thus WLS.

Additionally my thyroid being out of whack may just make it improbable for me to lose in excess of 150 pounds on my own in a reasonable amount if time. And every month that I spend at this unhealthy weight is taking a toll on my heart and the rest of my body.

So even if I eventually lose 150 by myself it may take me 5 or 10 years (or I may NEVER be successful without surgical intervention) I am still losing years off my life while still at an unhealthy weight. And what happens if I just can't lose it on my own? In 5 or 10 years am I a better candidate for surgery? How will my recovery be? What is the benefit in waiting? I am not getting any younger. I just feel like this is the time for me to make a change.

And I really don't care about being "skinny". In fact I most likely will never be skinny. But if I lose 100pounds or more I would be at a healthy BMI and therefore reduce my risks of all the heath problems I mentioned as well as many more. I am not considering WLS to look better in a bathing suit.... sigh. So.Not.The.Case.